Dear Diana: Separated for Summer

Dear Diana,

For the past few weeks, I’ve been dating a great guy. We get along so well, and I really enjoy the time we spend together. But summer is rapidly approaching and we won’t be anywhere near each other. Can a relationship as young as ours survive a summer of long distance?

Separated for Summer 

Dear Separated for Summer,

The short answer to your question is yes. But first you and your significant other have to make sure you’re on the same page. No matter which you decide, whether or not you two will be exclusive over the summer is something you should both be 100 percent clear on before you part ways.

Once that is settled, try to stay close and continue to communicate throughout the summer. Call, text, gchat, email, Skype, whatever works for you two. Skype is particularly fantastic because you can see each others faces. Despite the distance, you can feel like you are still an active part of each others’ lives.

Little tokens of affection can also be really helpful to keep things warm and to make your time apart seem shorter. Going the extra mile (excuse the pun) to send each other packages, letters or even something as little as a YouTube link that you know you’ll both enjoy will keep your connection strong. Keeping your inside jokes and common interests running will make you both even more excited to see each other in person again. 

Without the physical confirmation and the rush (here’s a picture of your brain on drugs–I mean love) of each others’ presence, sometimes distance can feel a little bit like going through withdrawal. If it is at all possible try to see each other, but this isn’t necessary. The most important thing is to stay positive, and to make sure your significant other does also. Things can get tough, but don’t worry! Soon enough, it will be September and the two of you will be together again.

Best of luck!

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