I am not sure I believe in platonic relationships and thus do not think I should maintain my friendships with girls. What is the point if someone is always going to get hurt? Is there such a thing as platonic relationships?
While I do believe it is hard for males and females to maintain completely platonic relationships, I do believe it is possible. However, there needs to be an emotional distance in order for the relationship to remain platonic. You should not be sharing all of your secrets or spend every waking moment with each other. These actions can certainly be mistaken as a sign of a brewing romance and feelings will naturally develop. Even if only one person has fleeting romantic thoughts about the other friend, keeping the relationship platonic can become difficult.
Even if such fleeting thoughts do occur, however, it does not necessarily mean that someone will get hurt. Many times someone will wonder what it would be like to kiss or even be in a relationship with his or her friend, but then realize they do not actually want that. While such thoughts make the relationship non-platonic for that moment, it can still revert back to a platonic relationship afterwards.
All in all, I strongly believe that heterosexual friendships are important and you can learn a lot from someone of the opposite sex. Thus, I would advise you not to swear off such friendships for fear that someone will always get hurt. By completely refraining from heterosexual friendships, I believe you will be doing a lot more harm than if you were to be in a platonic relationship that turns romantic. And who knows? Perhaps your platonic relationship that turns romantic could be the person you are meant to be with. Don’t allow fear of heartache keep you from experiencing the great pleasures of life. Live a little and enjoy life to its fullest.
However, when it comes down to it, this is just my opinion and I think this is an important topic that can lead to a fruitful discussion. Thus, I would like to ask readers to comment on this post to say what their opinion is on the matter. Readers: go crazy and comment away. Help Platonic Skeptic decide what she should do and whether or not true platonic relationships with members of the opposite sex exist. Good Luck Platonic Skeptic!
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